Ego Trippin' and Not the One By Nikki Giovanni...

***Thumbs though playlist*** I need to summon the moment real quick... Ok. here we go... ***Presses Play*** Woman Like Me- Beyonce' http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=otn-TrGXISM

Now let's give a topic that will excite your intellectual crave.... Love... Ok, yea its an overused topic but what do you define as love? Is it a kiss? A hug? A gift on valentines day? Being there for someone when they are in trouble? Does it not exist? Is it a feeling or a state of mind? Maybe both? Is it a love between parent and child? brother and sister? Where is the line drawn between having love for someone, being in love, and being in love WITH the idea of being in love? Oh, so now I got you thinking... Proceed on...

I think that love is constructed on tiers. It has many different degrees depending on the situation and who you are loving or rather attempting to love. Like for example my love for my boyfriend Is waaaayyy different than a love I may have for one of my friends, whether they be male or female. The love I'm going to go into is love between two people that can stem from dating or however method you may have come together. THAT Love is like a friendship on fire... Its like having a deeper friendship with another person with the inclusion of intimacy... And that right there in my opinion seperates the difference between having love for someone, being in love, and being in love with the idea of being in love. If you're missing any of the elements of the aforememtioned definition it can dictate which one you have. If you have love for someone, that can just mean a deep friendship or just a basic friendship. If your in love with the idea of being in love that may just be intimacy or lust that you confuse with love. You believe that physical attraction and interaction serves as a sufficient foundation that you forget that love is way deeper than that. So, you end up forcing yourself to conjure up the idea that your in love when, reality is, you don't even have a friendship with your significant other to keep the relationship going. So, that when passion between you turns cold and when the sweat between the sheets dries up, you end up hurt because you tried to believe you had something that was never really there... I'm just saying.

And then.... There's really truly absolutely being in love. That is a complicated feeling beyond measure... Its like being on the same intellectual plane... Its being the first to be there when they need you... Its understanding that you can't change the other person and learning how to except all their flaws... Its never asking them to change the way they look, act, feel, and think... Its the understanding that not everytime you talk it will be grazed with LOL's and smiley faces.. Its learning how to entirely trust them when you can't be around them and knowing that they wouldn't violate your relationship... Its about mutually shedding a little of your ego so you can both grow together and move forward with each other... Its being able to put aside all sexual contact from time to time to actually have an intellectual conversation... Its letting each other indulge in their dreams even if it means putting your relationship on hold... Its knowing that they have the power to break your heart at ANY given moment but being confident enough that they will not do that... But I mean, thats my personal definition...

My point is whether or not you agree with my definition or analysis is quite your prerogative. My thing is, know what YOUR personal definition of love is so you can decipher if your in a healthy relationship or not. It can be the deciding factor of whether or not you should really be in that relationship. Know your parameters for love because that can play a pivotal role in categorizing who you love, who you settle for, and who you're meant for. Let that marinate. I know what my parameters are, do you? ***Steps off Soapbox***

Committment

Someone told me this... And to this day... I'll never forget...

Committment
Committment is what transforms a promise into reality
It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions
It is the actions that speak louder than words
It is making time when THERE IS NONE
Coming through time after time after time
Year after year after year
Committment is the stuff that character is made of
It is the daily triumph and integrity over skepticism

Le Francais...

"Personne ne ce sait que l'avenier nous reserve"

"No one knows what the future holds"